I bet you have heard a lot of roommate horror stories out there. Are you one of them? So don't be.
Follow these folling guides to become friends with your roommate and have a good relationship that can last throughout college.
First, avoid rooming with a high school friend. I know what you're thinking, "I want to live with someone I know and like." Chances are, it won't work out. The majority of high school friends that live in a dorm room together don't stay friends for long. You already have too much history together. It's time for someone new.
Second, get to know your roommate before you meet face to face. When you get your roommate assignment, a university will probably let you know who you'll be rooming with along with contact information. If you don't feel comfortable calling, email him/her. By doing this you can get to know each other and sort out who is bringing what. You don't want to end up with two microwaves.
Third, think about the first meeting. You'll probably be meeting your roommate during the unpacking process. Take this time to talk. Comment on your roommate's pictures, posters, or anything else you may find interesting. It's a good way to break the ice.
Fourth, make plans to have a meal together. It doesn't have to be right after your first meeting, but sometime within the first day or two.
Fifth, explore the campus. Get your schedules and find out where your classes are going to be. Take note of all the interesting places in-between.
Sixth, go shopping together for your dorm room. If you get on campus and realize that you forgot something, see if your roommate wants to go with you. They probably forgot something as well.
Seventh, meet your neighbors. Bring your roommate with you when your meet your neighbors. It will be easier, plus meeting your neighbors is something you want to do anyway.
Eighth, set ground rules. Once you've gotten to know your roommate a little better, try to set down some ground rules. Write down a list of things that are/are not allowed in your dorm room. Set quiet times for studying and specific times to clean. This will help both of you out throughout the year.
Ninth, have a weekly get-together. Spend at least an hour or two a week to just spend time together; just the two of you. If that means, talking about any conflicts you may have, going out to eat, watching a movie, or even discussing your classes, it's a good way to stay close.
Tenth, know when to give space. Like with any friendship, you need to know when you're pushing too hard. You both can't spend every minute together. You need some time apart to be with other people or to be by yourself.
And lastly, the first step of course of having a friendly roommate is to find one first. How you can do this? Visit this site called Roommate.ph. And I suggest to create your profile, then start searching for members that have the same interests with you that you think can be a good roommate to share the house or apartment with.
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